It is 3:30 am. I have been up since 1:00 am tossing and turning over this stupid situation that I have been grieving over. So instead of letting Satan have some grip over me, I am going to explain and then call it a day.
First, I know who I am. I know my faults and I know the things that I struggle with each day. I know that I have a mouth that gets me into trouble. I know that I find comfort in venting to the wrong people about the wrong things. But most of all I KNOW that I am real. I say it like it is and I don't hide who I am. With that, let's begin with the reason I am up at the crack of dawn..
In January, my friend's husband requested me on Facebook to be his friend. I have had some really weird stuff go on with having men on my Facebook. Let's just say I was judged for what a man said to me and then a woman who accused my post to sound flirtatious. Either way, I was feeling that maybe, I should just delete all the people that I don't really talk to and also the men that I probably could afford to take off my page. So all the men, with the exception of my son, family and one or two male friends that my husband knows are deleted.
So when this friend's husband requested me, he also sent me a FB message. He asked if I would ask my husband if he would like to attend a men's bible study. I told my husband, who happened to be sitting next to me, and he gave me the answer in which I typed. After about three days, this man proceeded to text my husband the same questions that he had asked me on FB. My husband asked me what I replied to him, (maybe thinking that I did not respond) and I told him.
To eliminate confusion, I communicated to my friend's husband that it is probably better if I leave my FB page the way I had it and not have men on there. If he "would like to contact my husband", he could "friend him and talk to him there". I proceeded to delete him and then carried on.
Over the next week, I started to notice that when I would send a message, post or text to my friend, she would not respond. I knew that they had adoption/birthday celebrations coming up and because I had offered to help out, I sent a message and to no response. I wasn't going to be able to attend the birthday party only because my kids all have their birthdays the same week. So then I let her know that we changed the date and I asked if we would still be able to attend. She didn't respond. The next time I left a message I contacted her on FB. She sent me a message and said her husband was hurt however he had not contacted me or said anything for over a month. I asked if we could talk and I sent him an apology as well.
So here I am, trying to figure out what I did so completely horribly wrong to this man and my friend that I would now be blocked from both their accounts with no explanation. I have prayed and asked for guidance and in all honesty after the messages that I sent to both of them that I am sorry- I see that they do not care if we are friends or not. My husband made the last effort by calling and texting her husband to ask if we could all meet up- no response.
So here is my take (on a few things). They are Christians. We are Christians. We are called to forgive. Jesus died for that. Even if I had spit in their child's face, we are called to forgive. No matter what. I can only ask and beg if need be, to ask for forgiveness. Why would someone want me to have to go that far though? If they loved me like a brother or sister, why?
As Christians- if we believe in the Bible and we are called to love each other as a sister or brother.. The Bible states in Luke 3-Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.”
So I asked what I did, so that I could be rebuked and set straight, and nothing. So how is it that I would be set free from this if I don't even know what I did? How is it that I can see this as "loving?" I can't. They have been my "brother and sister" since 2006. My heart is aching with pain that I have hurt them. I don't know if they spoke with someone or if there is something I posted or said. I can't even comprehend what I did. I am beginning to feel as if they really just wanted a way out of the friendship.
So instead of believing any lies, I go to the Lord again..
The bible says in Colossians- "Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive".